Hey Anita,

I’m not going to say that I was the perfect one in the relationship but I’ve never given him a reason to treat me like he did. He did a lot of things that made it evident that he had some sort of insecurities he was dealing with. I always took measures to make him feel less insecure. For example, he hated when guys looked at me and would blame it on the clothes I wore, which were actually not revealing at all. But I went to the extent of changing what I wore and even stopped talking to all my guy friends. I felt like in a sense I was enabling him to control me… To be honest, when I did start a fight it would be because he would say mean things to me or if he was being too controlling but other than that I’m a pretty laid back person and I stay away from conflict as much as possible. I’m just not sure what I did wrong…