I was with my ex for 5 years and we’ve had a lot of fun together and would take trips together and I imagined a future with him. We broke up because he wanted to move elsewhere and I felt a long distance relationship wouldn’t work due to communication issues.  He said he doesn’t have to move anymore if it means being with me, but I think I will always feel guilty about holding him back and I fear he may resent me in the future. I also feel he (who is 22) is not ready to settle down and get married and I am ready for that already (I’m 24). I also felt at the end of the relationship that he was comfortable and didn’t try as hard with the relationship, the housework, or showing affection and I brought it up to him previously as well, but changes weren’t made.

I rebounded with a new guy (who is 26). He is sweet and I could see a future with him. We have great connection and similar values. He is thoughtful and caring and I can tell he cares about me and I care about him too. He shows me affection, believes in marriage, and I feel is more mature than my ex. A problem is I am not over my ex yet.

I am so worried about making the wrong decision so I haven’t made one yet. I feel if I only had one guy in the picture I would pick him easily, but now I think I should make a decision, because I have been getting frequent headaches and I’m not happy worrying about this. I don’t know if I should give my ex another chance or work it out with the new guy or just be single.