Dear Jake:

You wrote in your original post: “I am always chasing the affirmations of someone else rather than doing something for me”.

Is that why you joined the Marines? To receive your father’s approval of you, his affirmation that you are a good boy, a good person?

“I met my goal of joining the Marines, by now that I have been our I don’t feel any reason to do anything”- the reason you don’t feel like doing anything may be that you are tired of chasing your father, then tired of chasing others, chasing for that affirmation that you are  a good boy, a good person.

Without that affirmation, without knowing that you are a good person, how can you proceed to live your own life and do anything at all for you…

Am I correct?

anita