Dear Jen:

Some things that people do cannot be undone. In 2016, you grew very attached to this man, emotionally, had trust in him to continue to love you. And then he broke up with you, choosing to be close with an ex girlfriend. That hurt a whole lot. When you got back with him, that hurt was not gone.

When we are hurt, often we get angry, because we don’t want to get hurt yet again. So we fight the danger we perceive, the danger we fear, that is, being broken up with again, in your case.

He broke up with you in 2016, and that cannot be undone. It would have take much more communication before getting back together so that maybe the hurt and anger could be processed, reduced and a loving relationship made possible.

I think it is a good thing that this man is in your past. What do you think?

anita