Dear Annabelle:

It is clear to me that your first responsibility is to protect your children, yourself and your husband from your sister’s associations with violent men, men convicted of violent crimes, drug addicts, and so forth.

I asked about her motivation because I am interested in motivations. Are you interested in what motivates people, and what motivates your sister, particularly?

If you are, and would like to look into it with me, will you describe your sister’s relationships with her parents, past and present?

anita