Dear saggad:

In your original post you wrote: “I don’t know what to do now… or  I should being alone again, and how I could change this?”- she is trying to change you and you communicated to her that you don’t want to change in the ways she wants you to change. But she did not listen to you, did not listen to you with empathy, did not stop trying to change you, correct?

This means that to be in a relationship with her takes for you to pay a very high price for it, to be someone you don’t want to be. It is too much of a price to pay. Let’s say you are hungry and the only loaf of bread you can buy in your town costs $1000. Let’s say you have that money. Will you buy that bread for that much money?

If you are starving, you will, if it is between buying this bread and dying of starvation, you will buy that bread, am I correct?

I hope you are not starving for a relationship, because the price she demands is too high.

Be true to yourself. Change those things about you that you want to change, that you evaluate as needing to be changed (not what she wants you to change because it suits her).

I understand you want to experience that first kiss, and I hope you do soon.

Do you think there is a point to communicate to her once again, very clearly, what you are not willing to change about yourself?

You can ask her if she would like it if a man demanded that she changes this or that about her as a price for a relationship with him, maybe it will make your distress on the matter more clear to her.

anita