Dear Macaron:

Your answer leads  me  to think that indeed the possibility I brought up to you earlier  is possible,  that is, that  you avoid a real relationship by being  in a made-believe relationship.  It  is like  being involved in a relationship with a movie star. The man is on the screen, not in your personal life, but you feel love for him, you imagine he loves  you too.

This way you are sort-of, as if, in a relationship but not really, so you are not  exposed to the … dangers in a personal, one  to  one love relationship.

In other  words,  it is safer to love  your friend’s partner than to love a man who is available for a relationship with you.

anita