Dear Belle:

As to Jason, yes, it is possible for a fifty year old man to be insecure and make up stories of conquests.

You wrote in your recent post to me: “I feel cheated and betrayed by his meaningless fling with the lady in Thailand”. You are puzzled by the extent of your distress over that fling because there was no committed relationship between you and Jason before he left for Thailand.

So why the distress, why the extent of the distress and the duration? I think the reason for it is that his fling in Thailand, for you, is not about his fling in Thailand. It is about your experience of being cheated and betrayed as a child. It is the childhood experience of betrayal that is triggered by Jason’s fling.

Would you like to share about that betrayal?

anita