Dear Matt:

Two people angry at you, the girlfriend and the mentor?

Can you tell me about your girlfriend’s anger, the last time she expressed anger at you- what was the circumstance, what did you say that triggered her anger, what did she say, what did she do?

(If you have shared your feelings honestly with her, not blaming her (taking responsibility for your feelings), and she expressed anger at you because you feel the way you feel, then she is being unfair to you, damaging, really. After all, we don’t choose what we feel, and therefore we shouldn’t be blamed or punished for what we feel).

I need to get away from the computer for about fifteen hours. I hope to read from you when I am back.

anita