Dear Liz:

I think it is a good idea to ask questions, including asking him if he had a new girlfriend. Asking questions get you the information you need so to make informed choices.

You didn’t ask him if he chased her or she chased him. He gave you an answer to a question you didn’t ask. It is as if he was saying: yes, I have a girlfriend, but she chased me, so .. it is not my fault I have a girlfriend. Something like that. This suggests to me that he is not very honest, or straightforward. What does it matter who chased whom when the honest, straightforward answer to your question is: yes, I have a new girlfriend.

It is a good thing for our emotional well being to interact with people (family, friends, boyfriend) who are honest and straightforward with us.

anita