Dear jace:

Reads to me that the following may have happened: when he met you he wasn’t interested in a committed relationship. He was interested instead in sex, mostly. And so the relationship started as casual sex. You then “caught feelings” (your words), pressured him to commit to you, partially succeeded but he was not fully in. This is why you felt that you “gave 1000%… (and) didn’t feel it reciprocated”.

He was conflicted much of the time and finally took a stand, to exit the relationship so to return to the way he was before. It wasn’t “all of a sudden”  for him.

At times during the relationship he considered a future with you, but his stand before getting involved with you (not wanting a committed, long term relationship with anyone) was stronger than those moments, maintaining that doubt in him, the doubt that “kept over him”. Tired of doubting, tired of conflict, he took his non-negotiable position (“He also said there was nothing I could do to change his mind”).

What do you think?

anita