Dear Ladybug:

Time is approaching that needed “good heart to heart conversation”. Placing myself in your shoes best I can, based on our communication, this is what I would say to him and/ or type for him to read:

(Boyfriend’s name), I want to share my thoughts and feelings with you. Then I want you to take your time and let it sink in, take the time to process it and get back to me with your thoughts and feeling when you are ready, anytime in the next few weeks or a month.

I love you and that means I want what is best for you, but I want what is best for you. I also want what is best for me. I want our relationship to benefit both of us individually, to be a Win for me and a Win for you. The break in our relationship that you initiated benefited me in that I learned to take responsibility for my feelings, my needs and not expect you to make me feel this way or that way. I learned to not pressure you because pressure is not good for you, or for anyone, really. I learned that I need to be more independent, self reliant in our relationship and I want to keep at what I learned. My desire is to have a lifetime relationship with you, partners for life.

What I need from you at this point, and please, do take your time, is to know your thoughts and feelings about our relationship, how it is right now, in your mind and heart, and how you see it in the future, if you do. I need to know this because I need the information, so I know what is going between us, so that I can figure out how to proceed.

End of note. What do you think, Ladybug?

anita