dear Anita:

thank you alot for ur post.

yes Anita the factor u described earlier can be a reason .the Factor is my FEAR of losing him .i have this Fear that i might lose him or he will leave me..or may be he fall out of love with me .

because i had a bad past experience .

just before my last relationship i was in another relationship it was a perfect relationship inmy eyes i was very confident  person  i knew he loves me alot he ll never leave me ,we are just too perfect for each other nothing can ever make us separate and suddenly he left me without any reason he stopped all his contact ,stopped attending my calls ,till today he dint tell any reason .that was heartbreaking …i was very disturd for months

even after 1.5 years i think about him daily .i think how he broke my heart and why he did so ..

and i am somehow holding those baggage of my past which makes me insecure ,that my beloved bf  ll leave me as i experienced in my past may be .or if he ll hurt me how ll i go through the same heartbreak again  .