and i want to add here ,i have been in many relationships and as i remmember i used to fall out of love very easily in few months  after because of some different reasons .i am scared that i dont fall out of love with him this time,as  i really want him.

is it something wrong with me that i have been breaking up with ex.bfs?

these are the questions i often ask my self …and i am unable to find any answer

dear Anita ,

there always been multiple reasons to fall out of love with my ex -es  : for example

Ex A :b very possessive about me and interfering in everything i mean disturbing my privacy ,i had no privacy in that relationship ,emotionally abusive (used to threat me that he will kill himself etc ),lying to me about things as i came to know their lies i couldnt figure out how easily they were fooling me and making stories and i was believing every single word of his ..and too much drama .

EX 2:too much possessive ,insecure ,wanted me to do what he wants ,getting angry at me and lying and checking my texts or mobile everyday ,checking fb and replying my male friends from my side ..

in this relationship the way he lied about his education and made thousand of stories about that turned me off …

Ex 2 : (about this relationship i have already wrote  before )possessive,insecure,snooping mobile checking my msgs ,TOO much much Drama ,trust issues ..

thank you so much Anita for your time .

i have one main Question regarding my current relationship.

why do i sometime feel as if i dont love my bf ?as i mentioned above its second time i am having this feeling ,just before some weeks i woke up one morning and i started to feel as if i dont love him .i was very upset and angry at myself that why i am feeling this thing.after 3-4 days i suddenly burst into tears and cried alot infront of him without any reason he hugged me alot and asked me whats wrong why am i crying like this ?because he knows that i never cry because of  small things or normally .even i dont be too much emotional .i was crying  just because i was sad i felt i am again suffering from Depression (which started in my previous abusive relationship ),i was crying because i was sad and was not feeling that love for him ..i was pretending to love him in those 3 days .

but after crying next day i became alright .and i stat´rted having that love feeling for him ..

now again the same i feel as if i dont love him ?i cant understand why …???

but one thing more there is one incident ,may be  my this feeling has anything to do with that …i will mention it below :

(before entering into relationship i made things clear that i have been in relationships and i dont want to bring my past into our relationship if never needed .and he was agreed and he said he doesnt care about my past )

recently he was using my laptop while i was at work and he went through my emails ,and then he sent me my ex picture to me and asked me that who is he ?and than he said sorry to ask me, because he knew he was my ex and we were nt gona discuss about him (as we made things clear that he has nothing to do with my past)

actually he read 1-2  old emails which i sent to my ex ..

i got very angry that why he went through my emails ,and he said he accidently saw that .

the second day i checked my email sent box i found that  he forwarded that email of mine to his own email address.i felt very awkward and i asked .we had an argument about it ..i said that is my personal thing how could u do that etc ..but at last he convinced and he promised me that he ll delete those ..

and later after week i found tht he dint only go thtough  my ex email but also my male friends .

and than i asked that too that why u checked other emails ..so his reply was :i got obsessed after reading those ur ex email thus i checked …

and i asked him to stay away frm my privacy and he agreed .

now my concern  is ,if all these feeling of not being in love has anything to do with such issues ?

hello ANITA ,

Thank you once more ,

i wanted to say yes that makes sense but in my previous post i was unable to make it clear that my bf just went through my emails once  for example on 25 .August at 10 am  ,exactly the same time he text me and ask me about that picture  and later days when i was checking my laptop i found that on 25.august 10 am  my bf forwarded that email and another file from my email which was sent by my male friend was downloaded   on the same  date and time ..

and he said although he sae that emails but he doesnt care about my past etc .

dear Anita,

yes that was betray of my trust to go through my emails .and than later he was convinced that he ll not do that again .

now there are many questions coming into my mind .for example

but can this be a reason of what i was feeling (not in being in love)??if yes than

we all know we are not perfect and he did that mistake and should i start judging him on the basis of this ??or something els?

.in this case will i ever get a person in my life who will be perfect in everything ?

how can i fix this feeling now ,is it normal to feel that way ?

so on