Dear Lisa:

In nature and in human society, males have a stronger sexual need and desire than females because the male aims at getting as many females pregnant with his sperm as possible while the female is looking for just one male, the strongest looking/ sounding male. She gets pregnant only once and is done. The male gets her pregnant but is still in the quest of getting more females pregnant. Therefore biologically he has more of a sexual drive.

The Reverend, he is a male, so much of the time he walks  around being a Reverend he has these urges going on. So he sees the soldier, see that you talked to the soldier, that he is black and so are you, and he is thinking sex. Next he s trying to encourage … a copulation, basically between you and the soldier, reacting to his own sexual stimulation that way.

As the young woman that you are, if I was you, being a young, single woman, that is, I wouldn’t take men’s sexual interest personally, as if it is disrespectful of me. I would take it as men being born that way, like other animals, born with a strong sexual drive to mate with as many females as possible. With certain morals, some men mate with only one. But they really want to, or wish to mate with many more, generally speaking. We have to accept this reality.

anita