Hi DefinitelynotJessicaAlba,
In a perfect world (which is up to you!) you tell your boyfriend man-child: “This isn’t working”. You bravely leave (if you are living together) and find a nice safe apartment with multiple nice safe roommates if need be. If you live separately you also say “This isn’t working. I am seeing other people” (and then see other people. Hint: fellow Doctors! YOUR PEERS).
You are being treated as a the stereotypical foreigner who is with someone only for the visa. You know this isn’t true. THEY probably know this isn’t true. HOWEVER! The distinct Vibe here is that you need HIM far more than he needs you.
You are not just Some Girl. You are a Doctor. If you marry him HE becomes MISTER doctor!
Show them all how smart you are. Leave him until morale improves. See how fast they smarten up.
Best,
Inky
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