Dear Gary:

“She seemed so callous and uncaring and it cut me to the bone”, you wrote in your original post. Then you wrote, “it just periodically hurts to this day”- her betrayal of you almost forty years ago still hurts.

It reads to me that you did all the right things in spite of that pain, getting custody of the children, ending any and all efforts to resume the relationship  once the divorce was granted, getting remarried to a good woman with whom you’ve been married for 35 years, and you did all that despite the hurt.

Betrayal hurts, a whole lot. It may still hurt. There is no undoing of betrayal, undoing of the hurt that results. But I o hope that this thread is the closure you have been seeking. If she reads it, like you wrote, she will know it is about her. If she doesn’t read it, I read your story. Others have. Your story of betrayal and hurt has been read and acknowledged.

anita