Dear Littlemisssunshine05:

I think you should get together with him for the purpose of talking, then state things honestly but in a casual manner, tell him how important being in the band is for you, that you are interesting in continuing your involvement in the band regardless of the conversation you are to have with him.

The tell him how you felt about him over time, your confusion about his behavior and your need to know what he thinks and feels about you. Put the cards on the table, but again, in a casual, business like way, without much emotion and definitely, no drama.

Listen to what he says, don’t argue with him, keep in mind and let him know repeatedly, if needed, that you are only after information so that you have clarity about what is going on.

anita