Dear Richard:

You are welcome.

Other statements I think may not be honest:

1. “I asked her about the guy she had been seeing and she said it was over and nothing, was just a couple of dates“.

2. “the entire night she seemed really distracted and was on WhatsApp a lot.. I called her up on it and she said it was nothing”

3. “I sent her a long message asking what was going on… she wrote back saying she wasn’t seeing anyone”

Regarding your last question:

She told you earlier, while things felt good to you, that “she has never felt cared for in the way that I did, that she didn’t think it was possible to have a boyfriend who was also a best friend and that I was the most amazing cuddler she had ever had”- this reads honest to me.

In her breakup message to you she wrote: “Rich sorry but gonna take a break… things are different in not feeling it anymore.. I meet people when I go out I suppose I won’t know what I’m looking for until it hits me…I just need to fancy someone more”- that also reads honest to me.

Reads to me that she did like you very much but then, she met other men and liked them too, for other reasons. She got all excited about these new possibilities, new men in her life. So she figured she will keep experimenting with different men until it hits her (her words).

Makes me think of a child in Disneyland, enjoying one particular ride very much (your cuddling, for one) and returning to it again and again until she discovered there are other rides(someone’s tattoos and whatnot) and going there. And then there is another ride there and one more over there.

anita