Dear Ayras:

One thing I learned is to not voice every feeling or thought I have just because I have it. So, if I feel, for example,  jealous that the person on whom I feel dependent has a friendship with someone else, and I want to be the only person he spends time with (would be unfair to expect or demand), then I don’t voice this. I take a deep breath and go for a walk. Not a perfect solution, but it prevents problems.

You wrote, “I can’t blame them”- do you mean that you voiced thoughts and feelings that you shouldn’t and as a result relationships ended?

anita