Dear Candice:

“why I was so insecure about this one girl?”- because she is young and attractive and flirts with guys and your boyfriend is also young and interested in women, and at one time spent a night or nights in her apartment. You were able to see yourself that he liked her, so you figured… an attractive young woman, a young man, alone in the same apartment, and here she is… and what if, what if?

Your distrust is not based on unrealistic thinking, it happened before, again and again.. happens a whole lot that two young, sexual people have sex together, especially spending the night in the same apartment.

But  it is possible that it didn’t happen. From your share I didn’t detect evidence that they were sexually involved before or during your relationship with him. Talking about detecting, a competent and ethical (if there is such a thing) Private Detective (PI) would have been perfect for the job, a job you tried to do yourself when she visited your apartment and you observed her behavior.

Why are they no longer friends?

anita