Hi Jackie,

You in particular can’t really enjoy sex in and of itself. So let’s clear that option off the table. Not happening. The trick is for you not to feel or be apologetic about it. Everyone has their preferences, and you have yours! Yours happens to be sex within a serious, loving relationship. Period.

If your crush flirts with you again, make sure you stay far away from your or his front door so there is not even a temptation. Tell him you are looking for a real relationship. You can say this in a laughing flirty way or in a serious way. You can opt not to say it at all as actions speak louder than words.

What you want is easier to get than what he wants. He just wants to have fun. One day he may very well find a girl that just wants to have fun, but before he knows it… he’ll be in a serious relationship despite himself.

I hope by now you’re seeing that he’s not all that and a bag of chips.

Best,

Inky