Dear Missy:

“Only do things you really want to do… with no expectations” would be true if you volunteer, to feed hungry people, for example. But in the context of a personal relationship, such as a friendship, it is natural and acceptable to expect reciprocity.

I suggest you express your feelings to each friend who did not reciprocate your past help to her with her children, tell her you believe it is not right. Let her know you feel hurt. Then listen to her response. If you need time to think about her response, take your time and get back to her later. You can share what she tells you here, if you would like my input.

This way you will  get a chance to evaluate your friends and the nature of these friendships.

anita