I am really looking for some insight and suggestions to my situation.  My husband and I have been married for 7 years.  We have had one financial crisis after another.   The first 5 years it was surrounding his kids.  The county judge always sides with the mother even though she has broken the law, done drugs, hurt her kids and put her children in harms way.  Somehow we have always had to end up paying her literally ten, twenty, thirty thousand dollars more than we should have because we have had a stable lifestyle and she didn’t.  Regardless, we have put up the money and then sacrificed on our end. We made a life decision to move to a new town, closer to his job and start over in a town where his ex wife didn’t live.  I might mention at this point we have a 3 year old together.  Then my husband lost his job, his fault for doing something that was borderline ethical.  He lost his VERY GOOD JOB.  This is after I had suggested over and over again to make some necessary changes that got him into trouble.  Well, he lost his job, took another one, then lost that one because he said he didn’t like his boss or his boss had it out for him.  Then he took a job back in his old town and after a year and a half lost it. (The company lost their contract).  Neither of the jobs made nearly what he was making with the first one. In the meantime, we have drained all of our 401k, have large amounts on cc and fortunately have found a buyer for some land we owned and hopefully make a little bit of money to live off of while he is in between jobs.   I am not whining.   I am wondering at what point is enough?   I have kept the same job, I really don’t like my boss but I tolerate it.  I have worked another business on weekends to make up the difference. He has promised me over the past 2 years he was looking for a job. When I finally asked for his resume he presented something to me that I am sure he only spent 10 minutes on. I am wondering if he really has put in the effort.   I spent 10 hours reworking his resume and LinkedIn profile so he could REALLY start looking for a job.   We have hardly anything left in our savings account, he still doesn’t have another job, won’t take the reins in anything right now. I feel like I am raising a teenage boy telling him what to do every step of the way.  Oh, I also promised him I wouldn’t tell anyone that we socialize with to help with his pride right now.   I have broken down, I have cried, I have gone through the fits of every emotion.  All I seem to be able to do is walk around like a shell.  I’m in there somewhere-just don’t know where.  The only think I can seem to do is work my job, so I don’t loose that, what the money drain out of our account without any health insurance, try to be the best mom I can be to my son and listen to him try to tell me he will get another job (which I am very doubtful of right now).  I am half thinking of leaving him and all of the nonsense behind.  But we have a son.   Ideas?  Please? Encouragement?  Something?