Kkasxo,

Its true, you are in immense pain. You have suffered a major trauma, so the pain that follows is natural and normal. It doesn’t feel good, but remember it is a natural process. If what happened to you happened and you merely shrugged your shoulders in the aftermath, then that would be a little unnatural.

When someone suffers such a massive trauma, the best way to navigate through it in my opinion is therapy. A trained professional who has experience of what is going on in our heads and can help us deal with the pain. It has to be worked through to heal. In my therapy session one day, I came close to feeling the true depth of my pain and I nearly had to kneel on the floor in the foetal position as it buckled me, but my therapist helped me through and apparently once you feel one particular wave of pain and let it flow through you, you don’t have to deal with that one again.

I don’t know if you have any interest in visiting your GP if you feel the pain is too much to deal with all in one go, could they offer advice. As I said I’m not a fan of medication but there are points in life sometimes when we need an extra helping hand to deal with what we need to deal with. And as my doctor said to me, it’s just an aid to get me out of the dark hole to at least try to make sense of everything that’s going on.

Can you talk to family or friends also about how low you feel and how traumatised you are after the events of the summer? And remember, you always have us here on Tiny Buddha.

I truly empathise, I really do. The pain can be all consuming and you feel your life as you know it or knew it is gone. We’re in this together.