Dear Loleta:

You are welcome. But it is not only me and Mark who brought up  good points, you did too, starting with your original post, excellent points, organized, clear, making terrific sense. No doubt you did the right thing to end this marriage and relationship.

Regarding feeling sorry for a man who cheated on you repeatedly, one you can not trust because he is untrustworthy, I used to feel sorry for an uncaring, selfish and hurtful adult because I saw the hurting, innocent child locked in there. But if the uncaring adult will not access that child-within and keeps him locked away while choosing to be unloving, well, better that I stay out of the way of harm.

I hope you do socialize, enjoy the company of people, cooking, making jewelry. What kind of cooking is your favorite?

anita