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Thankyou for your reply Anita. I did do it in moderation. I am an introvert and I don’t express my feelings to others often. Ofcourse this has been creating a problem for me as I try to deal with everything on my own and end up lost. Also, I have fear that if I open up and explain my problems to other people, they would not understand and just brush it off just as he and few others did to me. This makes me feel more lonely. He himself would ask me about my daily happenings and when I shared them as it is, he would start lashing out on me saying I am complaining. How can he expect people to be happy 24*7 when he doesn’t even know what exactly that person is battling with in their life? On the contrast, he would go on and on about how he caught a cold and how he was feeling uneasy because of it.There were many other occasions where he often put me down and made me feel worthless.
Also, I figured out that I have this weird habbit of trying to feel other’s emotions. Like, when someone is jealous of me, I get a negative vibe and feel their jealousy. To be more specific, I guess I try to put myself in their shoes completely and think from their perspective and not mine. Their negative stares and the tone of their voice makes me anxious, and though I haven’t done anything wrong, I feel like its my fault. It’s like I am focusing completely on their emotions rather than mine. I don’t know whether you understood this feeling, but if you do, can you please throw some light on it? How do I stop doing this and focus more on my emotions? How to differentiate that their emotions are not mine?