Hi Michelle, thank you, and I am really sorry for your loss.

I do agree with you that I am selfish. But again everyone is selfish to some degree, and it is human nature.

It seems that there is no timeline for when this situation is gonna end. I am frustrated cos I do not know how long this is going to last… if his dad is in the same situation for the next 5 – 10 years, and he needs to be there; I am going to be there with no foreseeable future for us (or nothing cos we are  not even de facto as we are not even living together). Were you married or in a relationship when you were with your dad? If you were, how did you handle your relationship?