Thanks Valora, I am so appreciative of you taking the time to share your story and your perspective with me. It has given me a lot to think about. A lot of what you have said echoed the things that my therapist has been telling me (good god….never thought that’s something I’d have to write. lol) which at least helps me feel like I’m spending my time and energy in the right places. Still messing up along the way, especially in regards to being patient and not attempting to rush things, but just doing the best that I can. Honestly I think one of the biggest things that needs to happen to at least move things in one direction or the other (on her end) is that she needs to talk to somebody neutral. Like you said, even if it’s just 2 or 3 times, I think it’d be helpful for her to verbalize and understand her feelings.

I appreciate the well-wishes. Good luck to you as well!!