Dear Ben:

You are welcome.

You wrote: “Me and my girlfriend don’t believe in taking a break, we see it as a problem we  need to pass together in order for us to grow up as a couple“-

Let’s say your significant anxiety problem is all yours and nothing to do with the relationship being wrong  for you, and your girlfriend wants to help you. She needs help so that she can help you,  in other words, the two of you can attend psychotherapy together, as a couple. In therapy, she will be the extra ears for you, reminding you what the therapist said and suggested. She can remember things to tell the therapist while in sessions, things you forgot or things you didn’t notice.

There are exercises the therapist can suggest that the two of you do together later, after  the sessions.

You wrote that you and your father used  to fight a lot. How young were you when those fights started and  how did such fights come  about?

Where was your mother at the time those fights started, did she  intervene?

anita