Dear H:

You want to  arrange a meetup with  him online, if I understand correctly, so to continue “to do everything you would do in person without the added  pressure of having to  please  someone based  on looks”-

do you want to continue the relationship that was,  the  planning of each  other’s vacations, hair color and  so forth,  or  are you open to  a different kind  of online communication?

If you want the same  as it was, ask him if  it  is possible for him,  if  the two of you can  resume that, and if he and  you are  willing, try it, see  if it feels nice, to continue that. If you are open to something new, suggest that to  him, to  get to know each other better as online friends,  not for the  purpose of a romantic relationship, but for the purpose of learning about oneself and the other.

anita