Dear afeels:

“I have rushed the  process”-  if you desire a relationship with a  man, than you rushed and missed the following:

* Sharing with a man what  you think, feel, what you hope for, what you want, what motivates you and listening to him share the same.

* Learning about him in different contexts  such as seeing him in  the  context of his family, seeing him when he is disappointed or angry, how does  he act? When the two of you have a conflict, what  happens next?

* Can you trust  him to  be on your side, to have your best interest at heart; do you have his best  interest in your heart, and can the two  of you operate as a team, helping each  other be better people, calmer, more content and more functional?

You rushed through  time so each man in your life has been a stranger, someone you just met.

I hope to read more  from you when you are able and willing.

anita