Dear afeels:

Regarding your “curiosity about women”- I bet there is hardly a woman in the world who once aware of the possibility, is not curious. We are naturally curious about a lot of things, especially as children. Sex, because on one hand it is such a taboo, a shamed topic and on the other hand it is everywhere in full view, as in videos easily available, we do get curious.

When I look at your curiosity, I see you singling out this particular curiosity and making it way more than it is. It is just a curiosity, something the brain is inclined to do, ponder different possibilities.

The main problem you have at this point, as I see it, is being “stuck overthinking. Constantly”. The solution is to take the elevator, so to speak, down from your overthinking brain, to the rest of your body, to your legs (go someplace), to your arms (do something), to your eyes (see something new), etc. In  other words, start living and stop overthinking.

As scary as it is, there is no other way for you to proceed, not that I see. Life is not a theoretical venture, something to think about. It is something to experience!

Why not aim to have a real-life  relationship with a person (man, woman, I  personally don’t care), not for the purpose of having sex, aka a hookup, but for the purpose of getting to know each other, checking each other’s values and motivations, goals and building an honest, loving relationship  over time?

anita