Anita, I thought of the forgiveness letter after I left the session.  Peter, I am aware that all parents are individuals and that we all work with what we were given during our formative years and that really no one is to blame, but it is our responsibility to change it.  I had a shift in my relationship with my mother during the last year of her life.  She actually gave me what I needed.  She spoke of her love and affection for me and she complimented me on my accomplishments.  I feel I have already made peace with her however, I will write up a list of things I’d like to express to her (and my father) in preparation for the next session.  It may have something to do with the therapist.  I find her a little abrasive and sometimes hard to understand (she’s got a bit of an accent).   I’ll try one more session with her and see how I feel.