Dear Anita

I think you are right that my mother did not engage in the process of healing. To be fair to her she probably didn’t know about ‘healing’ as an aim (mental health knowledge in her country of origin is very poor and due to language barriers she could not access counselling). All she knew was that she had to end contact.

My mother has never discarded me, but I guess I have not given her any reason to? She hasn’t discarded my sister although when my sister ran away from home my mum did very little to reach out to her. My sister has since returned to the family home, so she hasn’t been discarded either in that way.