Dear nrk2208:

It is difficult to change mental habits because they are already set in place. It takes conscious effort, paying attention on an ongoing basis, to change a habit. It is like tying your shoes, once you are in the habit of tying your shoes in a particular way, you do so inattentively, not paying attention, and you do it well. If you want to tie your shoes in a different way, you can’t do  it automatically, you have to  pay attention to every moment of tying your shoes.

If you want, specify one particular mental habit that you have and we can talk about an alternative habit to replace it, and how to go about it.

anita