Dear Lynda:

Good to read from you again, and I am fine, thank you.

I am  glad your home and your son’s school are safe places for him. Good job on your part, providing your son these safe places.

You wanting “to be around people (you) connect with and not spend so much time on (your)  own”, is as natural a need as can be for a social animal, which is what a human is. We truly are people who need people we can connect with, people who are not aggressive toward us, who are safe to be with.

“I don’t want to commit to a job only to let someone down when I say I am going to live somewhere else”- what if you tell your employer about your considering living elsewhere right at the beginning, so it is out in the open and so, you will not letting anyone down.

“It’s that fear of not yet knowing where I will be settling that causes uncertainty within me”- I mentioned social animals at the beginning of my reply. Social animals as well as other animals are okay with not being settled at a certain place for the rest of their lives. They keep moving so to find better sources of food, or to escape a fire and so forth. Try to be okay with where you are today, a day at a time. The forever-settling, it really is a fantasy, because no one can forever settle. Even a person with unlimited financial resources, having purchased a castle to last  forever… cannot guarantee being alive the next day to enjoy it.

One day at a time. Make each day a bit better than the day before.

anita