Dear AnxiousAsUsual:

I am glad you had an honest and thorough conversation, excellent!

It feels good to communicate honestly and I hope the two of you continue to do so as well as to “be more intimate in (your) general life”, including cleaning the house together, cooking and so forth.

Let’s look at the information you gathered from the conversation:

1. He has “a history of intermittent ED”- this means that he is likely to continue to experience times of ED, as in lifetime.

2. He is experiencing depression.

3. He believes that his lack of exercise and poor diet is contributing to his ED and depression.

4. He felt distant from you for a while, not intimate or close in your “general life”.

– over time, as you consider making a life with him, you will figure out

-if you are okay with having a partner who suffers from intermittent ED, if the sexual relationship between the two of you, including no-erection required activities, is satisfactory for you and for him

-if the two of you continue to have honest, intimate conversations and operate as a team.

-if he will improve his exercise and diet

-if his depression lifts and your anxiety is manageable.

anita