Dear John:

Every person has to be careful when entering another person’s life, especially children’s lives. A good person doesn’t want to hurt others, especially not innocent children who don’t make the choices that get them where they are.

From communicating with you in the past, it became clear to me that what you need is a relationship with a woman who has no minor children under her care, a woman who is financially okay enough to be able to participate in fun activities with you. Basically, you need fun and calm in a relationship, not stress and excess responsibilities. Therefore this relationship with this current girlfriend is not right for y0u.

I am glad you are considering the welfare of your girlfriend (soon to be an ex) and her children. See to it that they live close to resources/ people who will help her with the care of her children, and that she will not be in a financial crisis as a result of the ending of her relationship with you.

I suggest that you see to it that the ending of this relationship is as peaceful as possible, no fighting, no arguing, and that you will visit her children after the separation, at least for a while.

Take care of what you need to take care of and place this relationship in your past in a responsible way.

anita