Kat,

Whenever a man tells you something about him then believe him.  When he has said that becoming close to you is “too much” then believe him.  His Aspergers, depression, and anxiety will not go magically away.  His trauma will not be ameliorated quickly.

All those things would make an intimate, close, romantic relationship highly challenging.

You’ve only seen a 3 month window of what he is like, i.e.  kind, intelligent and gentle.  I don’t that he is that AND he is also these other qualities that would make it really hard to have him as a boyfriend.

You decide what you want to put yourself through considering who he is.

Mark