Dear Lipsol:

Welcome back!

First, I suggest that you avoid any and all gossip in the workplace, that is, do not complain yourself to any one co worker about any other co worker, be it a manager or a receptionist or any other. No talking to  one co worker about another co  worker. When a co worker talks to you about another, do not participate by adding your thoughts about that talked about co worker. Instead, change the subject as soon as you can.

Second, avoid personal relationships with any of the co workers, be polite, diplomatic but don’t be anyone’s friend. Approach other co  workers, those you think are more positive, for lunch and such, don’t remain confined to the two women with whom you aligned yourself with.

Third, you noticed that there is gossip and complaining between co workers. This means that you are probably not the exception, there is some talk about you too. Don’t take it personally because I assume everyone is talked about by almost everyone. If being talked about meant being fired, no one will  be working there, correct?

So keep showing up, no gossiping yourself, not participating in gossip, and be polite but not anyone’s close friend.

anita