Hey both, back from our morning walk in the warm sunshine – it’s a great mix of temples, sea, hills and general Asia crazy – I love how ‘normal’ things like a coffee bar are interesting with all the strange to me options. Working my way through trying them and all the exotic fruit shakes ….!

Shelby, sure. What I meant by similar to Kkasxo was in reaching your current limit of level of stuff you can deal with before becoming overwhelmed instead. It’s a good trigger to be aware of so as you know not to accept anything else until you are ready to do so.   Being busy is a distraction, it works well for a while but it still leaves you needing at some point to find a quiet time to work through everything. I found this part a very circular process, each time round understanding a little better than the last time.

Btw –  you know I am going to ask you this one – but why do you think you feel the need to lie about seeing your ex again to your friends/family……..??  If you truly believe this is the path forwards that will make you happy, why would you want to hide that?  I’m assuming you think they won’t approve and you don’t want to try to explain something  – especially if deep down you don’t actually believe this is the right path for you either? Sounds like you already have pretty clear signals this guy has not, will not and doesn’t actually see any need to change. And sounds like you are already anxious about not getting what you wanted from meeting up with him.