Dear curiousknowledgeseeker:

So you intend to have your SIL  for 2-3 days in your home, hoping she will not have the time she needs to create trouble for you. (Did it take her in the past two days before creating trouble?)

You wrote: “after being married for 10 years & parents starting to age, I have started to feel obliged to do things to give them some happiness” -you mean your husband’s parents?

Whose parents are you referring to and can you give me a few short descriptions of the “small issues” that you  over analyze and get stuck on for days?

anita