Dear curiousknowledgeseeker:

Good idea to relax and take some time away from thinking before returning to the issue. When we are tired and distressed there is a fog in our brain that is in the way of seeing clearly.

“when everyone around you follows (harmful traditions), sometimes they make you  wonder..”- good point, this is why it is a bad idea to have your parents in law living with you, it will make you wonder more and more and more.

(And this is why it is better that you have your SIL in your home three days less than you are planning on.. math makes it zero days)

Take your break and return to your thread anytime. I’ll be glad to read and reply to you whenever you are back.

anita