Hello Lukey,

I agree with Mark above.

It might be possible to get this person out into the world again if both you and your girlfriend work together on the task. She sounds like she has no life, which is why she is so focused on living her life through someone else, that being your girlfriend and yourself.

I would also see if your girlfriend can get her mother to a doctor as she sounds depressed.

If you try these things and fail, then at least you will have tried.

It actually sounds like she is trying to put everyone around her (especially her daughter) on a guilt trip as well. The reason for that could be that because she is unhappy, everyone else has to be.

I’d like to know what she was like before her divorce. Was she any different to how she is now? Is this something she has slipped into and spiralled downwards in a destructive kind of way until she is now sitting alone in the dark and choosing to be there?