Dear Mutubu:

Reads to me that it is not a good idea for you to go to Canada to visit her. She is not your girlfriend, really. She is a woman you’ve been communicating with online for a while. I don’t see a relationship there with her. Like she communicated to you herself: “I’m not your girl so can’t relate… we’re single we’re just talking”-

No reason to spend money traveling long distance, getting your hopes up so to see a woman who  is not your girl, and who is “just talking” with you.

I hope you can have a relationship with a young woman in your area, one you can get together in person, wouldn’t that be better for you?

anita