Dear memories11:

Is it true, that “he’s just someone who bluntly says things out loud”- does he tell his parents what he feels about their behaviors, or does it keep  it to himself?

Is he careful  to not offend those he believes are more powerful than him (and can hurt him back), but is  okay with offending those who he believes are less powerful than him?

If he has children, with you, children who are naturally not powerful at all, in what ways will he be blunt with them?

You can observe him with others, his bluntness, specifically with his parents and with children. And at a moment when he is calm and not eager to present the topic as your insecurity/ problem, you can ask him any one of these questions.

anita