Dear AEG:

She is in her 50s, lives alone in a flat, disabled, unemployed, on painkillers and anti anxiety drugs, believes she has been wrongly medicated, friendless, “looking upon herself as treated wrong and never understood by society”.

You, nine years older than her, “working in a well respected and relatively high positioned job.. well situated economical with a nice house and a bank account.. ready to share if it came so far”.

You asked: “why does a person spiraling down (as I see it) reject someone reaching out?”. Let’s look at what she said as the reasons why she rejected you:

1. “usually I prefer the tough type.. you are a little too old”- you were not tough enough for her liking (I don’t know what “tough” means, to her), and being nine years older than her, she felt you were too old.

2. “our horoscopes do not match perfectly”- she checked your horoscope and found out it doesn’t match hers perfectly.

You asked: “should I send her a message- or forget?”-

I would say forget, because you can’t change your age (#1) or your horoscope (#2).

Also, regarding her spiraling down, she is living in her own flat, and although unemployed, she has a regular monthly money coming in (?), how is she spiraling down and is her economical situation getting worse?

anita