Thank you for reply, anita
I am not clingy and think I will let time pass and let her go, so in some way not my problem anymore.
She was born prematurely and probably spent her first time in an incubator, in and out of hospital for the first year.Her pains / headaches appear absolutely real.They could be physical or a result of tension, perhaps a combination.Her medication is now being discontinued, and no alternatives are planned.She has not been on vacation for the last many years due to a sparse economy, living in a rented flat.A big dream of hers is to get a job, where a kind but very verbally active behavior is standing in the way.
A second opinion could examine and consider if it was an idea e.g. with medication against hyperkinesia. Alternatively, if it was confirmed that a medical condition existed already in youth contributing to poor performance on the labor market she would qualify for a moderate rise in pension.
That is of course her problem alone.She is a talented person and could do well if she was given a second chance.As it looks now she will not get that chance.She could spiral into an un- or self medicated painful existence.
AEG