Dear Veronica:

“I was rude because I told him that he was becoming the person he said he wasn’t”- that is not rude, if you believed what you said and was able and willing to tell him what specific behavior on his part was undesirable to you and to him, then what you said was informative, not rude.

“he said he doesn’t care”- if he said it while you were arguing with him, pressuring him, it is understandable why he was angry and frustrated and said he didn’t care.

“yelling at me”- that was rude, aggressive, yelling is aggressive and does not belong in a relationship that is supposed to be loving. Did you yell at him too, I wonder.

So you started the most recent fight because you recently found out that two years ago (in the beginning of your relationship), he was talking to his ex girlfriend-

– how did you found out recently that two years ago he talked to  his ex?

anita